It's the year of getting things done and I finally got something done.
Something slightly painful.
The pain wasn't bad during the procedure. The anesthesia was the worst. There were 3 different spots on my face, along with one on my back. He started with the big one here, and moved around to the right side. He numbed them all in sequence and by the time he got to the third one, which wasn't as well numbed, I could feel the pricks from the stitching needle.
It was kind of funny though. In his waiting room, he had a book about cowboys. One passage I read said that American men need to do a better job of manning up and not whining. So I did that. I'll admit my eyes were watering from the stings though. It hurt. But I've always been one to grit my teeth just to get it over with. I'd rather not have them take more time to numb any more. Even at the dentist. My face is seriously sore right now.
Alright alright. That's enough of that whining.
The crummy thing was that it didn't occur to me to pull out my phone and video him cutting on my face. Dangit. When the nurse was cleaning me up, it finally dawned on me to take a picture.
The doc and I got to talking about vacations. Specifically, the one he was missing right now. The 100 mile hike in Africa, near the Cape of Good Hope.
How much am I paying for this??
So there's one thing down. Hopefully the bankruptcy will be almost done this week too. Just need to file my taxes and gather some more paperwork from the ex.
The job's going well so far. Remember me talking about hiring a hot assistant? Yeah, well...guess how that's going. She actually quit yesterday. I'm pretty sure it's because she thinks I'm too harsh.
W. T. F.
If she were a guy, I'd tell her to man up and lettem' drop.
As it is, I'm proud of myself for not laughing right in her face.
Well...not laughing a lot anyway.
I was half considering asking her to stick it out, but then she sent me a text, during a time when I specifically said I would be unavailable, saying that maybe since I understood her better now that I wouldn't be so demanding. I was a nice boy and simply responded, "it's too late."
Part of my new job is developing employees. Encouraging them to grow, training them, finding out how they're motivated, stuff like that. I'm not very comfortable with that yet. Primarily because I just don't know how to. There's not a lot of advancement or even lateral opportunities in our industry. As far as my assistant is concerned, I'm just not inclined to try and help her grow now. Besides the fact that she quit, I would still like her to succeed, but I just know that whatever I say isn't going to mean much. I'll still say a few things. A few nuggets of wisdom to help her mature a little, but I know it isn't going to have much impact until she reaches that next hurdle, where she thinks back and says, "maybe he was right."
It still blows me away that she thinks I'm 'nitpicky' to the point of being harsh. I know I'm nitpicky, but it has nothing to do with her. It has everything to do with preventing people further along the process from having to make adjustments and figure out what's going on because she wasn't very accurate.
*sigh*
Now we know I'm not far off at all when I call myself the head babysitter.
Oh, and I got myself a birthday present. A french press coffee maker. I've consumed A LOT of great coffee over the last few days. Seattle's Best #2.
Ouch, I hope you recover and heal quickly! I had an operation on one of my eyelids once, and there wasn't much they could do about numbing the pain.
ReplyDeleteYou'll find an assistant that is competent and whine-free. The assistant that quit will realize her mistake, I'm sure of it.
Oooh, poor face! But those will heal quickly and it is so good that you had it done.
ReplyDeleteAs for your ex-assistant...it is an employer's market. You can find someone who will actually work up to your standards, you don't need to settle. It sounds like you are commited to being a mentor to new employees, but you can't help someone grow if they've already decided your way is wrong!
I would whine. Dude, that is a heck of a scar.
ReplyDeleteThat does look like it should be sore! Glad its over with and now you can heal. Sounds like the assistant need to go. No one gets to manipulate the boss into doing things their way. That's nuts.
ReplyDeleteMmmm... french press coffee! That's what my mom always used. =:]
Yowzers! Sorry I haven't stopped by for a while, as that is one serious looking bunch of stitches and a great pic. There should be some way for you to put that pic on your resume. I bet you'd get a boatload of interviews just from the interviewers being too scared to NOT give you a call back. Tell 'em it's a dueling wound or something.
ReplyDeleteTara - An eyelid!? Ouch!
ReplyDeletelaura b - I might be willing to mentor a little, but I usually expect people to figure things out for themselves. Probably too often actually.
CP - I did whine. and then dined.
silly - It is nuts. And people like that don't even realize what they're doing, even if you tell them.
Suldog - If I do use it in a profile, the caption will be, "You should see the other guy."
I had to have an artery cauterized once, and the delivery of the anesthesia was far more painful than the actual procedure.
ReplyDeleteAs for the whole "manning up" thing, I actually think that's counterproductive. That kind of consistent self-repression is practically an open invitation to mental illness.
If a man is in pain, he should feel free to yell, "That hurt like hell!"
If a man is upset, he should feel free to cry. I'm a young man who takes no shame in crying. I balled my eyes out on the phone with my father one time last year. I needed it.
Brace yourself, you'll recover and heal in no time.
ReplyDeleteWhew, beats my bruises!
ReplyDeleteI'm sure I'll have comments on your harshness... but gotta go to bed.