The main thing is an online identity. While it wasn't necessarily due to a concentrated effort, my real life (RL) identity has been fairly well separated from my online identity (OL.) Since Google+ came around, that's changed a little, but not enough to concern me.
It's not that I have anything to hide from anyone, but I've always been a very private person. Maybe there's more concern for what people think than I'd like to admit. Or maybe explaining things is more work than it's worth. Or maybe I enjoy the anonymity. Who knows...
Facebook is probably the only online connection to my RL. Not that I ever actually post updates, but still. Google+ is the next closest connection. It's set up to keep things as separate as you want too. You could post any update but then pick and choose the people you share it with. Currently, I have no family in any of my G+ 'Circles'.
What I'm mostly thinking about is how I might integrate any new online acquaintances into my OL. Do I do the FB thing and suffer the potential consequences of FB drama? Would they get offended if I didn't want them as a FB friend? Do I mention that I'm a blogger? Cause if I did, I'd probably have to let them read it. And if they read it, would my attitude about the blog change?
It's all certainly not worrying about, but it's stuff I'm thinking about and that's why it's here.
Here's my real profile pic.
I am physically incapable of forcing a smile.I think my camera gives these 'self-shots' a fish-eye look. Does anyone else see that? Maybe it's just the shape of my head.
Or maybe this is the next "What is it?" picture. Good luck with that!
ps - Just read a profile, "I'm not picky on looks..." Do we have a winner?! Ha!
pps - Why do 90% of the single women have a dog? I like dogs and all, but sheesh...
I have yet to see any truly good profile pics unless they are taken by a photographer. I think you are right about that fish-eye thing too. And the lighting is never right when you take one yourself.
ReplyDeleteWhile doing the online dating thing, I didn't meet any men who had blogs. Two did have FB out of the 7 I actually dated.
I really didn't like the idea of them being connected to my online life, so that was good. I don't know why. Privacy maybe.
I'm on G+ but I don't really know how to use it.
I would suggest you use one of your silly pictures. It represents you better. You look morose there, and you aren't. And I would never tell some random person that I blogged. No way in hell. Of course, I throw a lot more shit up on my blog than you do.
ReplyDeleteI strongly encourage you to get someone to snap a shot f you when you are smiling or laughing - it makes all the difference in the world - people look for "friendly."
ReplyDeleteI keep FB and blogging completely separate. I never friended potential dates on FB until after we'd gone out for a bit. But now, I have a handful of guys I used to date plus the one I'm seeing now on there, which is a little odd. But no one would guess who I'm dating from my FB posts - we're both careful.
As for rules for "parent blogs" - I don't have a parent blog even though I'm a parent and write about my kids some times. I definitely do not write as if they would read it because they don't. It's private and I want a place where I can be more open than I would in other settings. But I would never dream of saying anything negative about either of my kids in a public forum like that.
Bro, I love you in a totally heterosexual way so I;m going to give you some unsolicited advice.
ReplyDelete1. Smile...please smile. It helps (kind of like chocolate in Harry Potter)
2. Have someone else take a photo outside, away from work, it looks like you might not have a life..or any friends.
3. Black and white photos always work better. It gives you a modern look.
Rock on, you should make a post series about your online dating escapades. Women do it, but not many men. call it "Casting a Line - one man's dating escapades"
On second thought that title sounds kind of gay..
ReplyDeleteha! I am remembering that I did add a couple of guys I dated, during my brief dating period as FB friends. Then when I lost interest, I just lost them...no harm no foul.
ReplyDeleteI don't write my blog with my kids in mind, although of course they come up. (Most of them are adults in any event, so it is a little different) But I am not only a mother, so I don't only write as a mother.
SMILE KEN! Yes, I read the caption. Still, SMILE :)
ReplyDeleteOh the dreaded online dating. I'm wondering how long I can avoid that one.
ReplyDeleteI think it's a good picture, but if you are trying to snag yourself a sassy chica, smile. :)
And I would LOVE to read about your dating experiences. Chopper Papa is right; there really isn't a lot of these things written from a guy's perspective.
p.s. save yourself the headache and keep blogging and FB etc separate.
p.p.s. I think women have dogs because they don't talk back. But they still fart and lick themselves. I'd rather have a bird.
rabbit - Some profile pics are obviously pro, but that just ain't me.
ReplyDeletesecret agent - things would have to get pretty serious to FB someone, but even then, there might be more danger.
CP - I know. Just need to find something funny while the pic gets taken. and yeah, that's pretty gay.
laura b - I have the same thought about my kids reading my blog. If they do, oh well.
Nikki - My drivers license looks like a terrorists pic...and I thought I was smiling.
Zany - I'm still pretty much avoiding it, but it is kind of amusing. And helps me to figure out what to look for when it comes to it.