- It's Bellie's 4th birthday today! Dang she's cute, but teenie eentzie. She's only 34" tall.
*sigh* She's already a heartbreaker.- Winter's on its way. It's only supposed to get up to 64 today. Quite windy too. Forecast says it'll get back up to the 80's by the end of the week.
- I toured a potential rental yesterday. I hoped that it would work out, but maybe not. The price is right, the location is great (maybe a 10 minute bike ride to work), it has a fantastic yard, but it's tiny. It's advertised as a 2 bed/1 bath, but the 2nd bedroom is more like a large closet. It's conceivable that I could build a 3-tier bunk bed, but with twin-sized mattresses, it would almost fill the room. The only thing stopping me is the winters here. Spending 2-3 days at a time without the chance to go outside would make that place a little tight.
- Something needs to change around here. The original plan, from 4-5 months ago, was for her to find somewhere else to live. Then she suggested I move out, which was fine by me, but having to pay most of the childcare over the summer put a damper on that. Then a couple of weeks ago I saw her looking through the rental classifieds. I asked her about it and she agrees that something needs to happen, but she's not being very open about whether or not she could get it done on her own.
- On top of that, I suspect she's seeing someone again. *rollseyes* She's not as sneaky as she thinks she is. Either that or she's looking for a place to live about an hour away. I know I have to ask her about it, but I'm afraid I'll go away from the conversation thinking she's lying to me, no matter what the answer is.
- I could afford to pay for that little place right now. I'm very tempted to do that, just to get out of here, but dang that bedroom is small. I think I might call the landlady and ask her if she'd let me move a wall. I know it's highly unlikely, but it's pretty much the only thing stopping me from going forward with it. If I could move that wall just 2 feet, it would make a lot of difference. And in fact, on the other side of that wall, in the living room, there's a corner that has this fake brick veneer. If I could just move that wall out to the edge of that veneer, no one would notice that the wall had moved. Of course the living room would get smaller, but it wouldn't be bad.
- But even if I couldn't do that, the place might fit into my plans anyway. I'd planned on finding a cheap place, save some money and get some important things done over the next year. Even when paying child support, I could save more than I'd be paying in rent.
- Maybe if I made her a deal? I'll replace the old flooring if she lets me move the wall. I'd like laminate flooring, but maybe even just some carpet remnants.
- So that's all the stuff that's rolling around in my head at the moment. (Yes, it has a lot of room to roll.) I think I've already decided, I just need to convince myself that I'll survive.
So do you guys have any suggestions, comments, thoughts? Please share!
It never hurts to ask. If moving the wall a few feet could actually easily be done, maybe it could happen. If not, maybe you could consider taking the smaller room and giving the girls the larger room? I didn't even have a bedroom the first year I moved out and it was still totally worth it. You will definitely survive :-)
ReplyDeletePS - Happy birthday to the beautiful Bellie!
ReplyDeleteHi Laura - I actually thought of that, but I think that entire room is actually smaller than a queen sized bed.
ReplyDeleteI'll pass along the well wishes!
I bought a double bed when I moved out so that I could be sure it would fit into a smaller room if need be.
ReplyDeleteHonestly, it boggles my mind that you are both still living together. (Am I reading that right, that's you're living together?)
Aw, Happy Birthday to your girl! She is adorable!
ReplyDeleteI don't want to hear or read the "W" word yet, it gives me chills. I do love Autumn, though. It's sweater weather!
If I can address Secret here...estranged couples living together may not be ideal, but it tends to be about money. My ex and I actually lived together for several years before we could afford two separate households. Healthy or ideal? No. But sometimes money wins.
ReplyDeletesecret agent - laura's right. It's all about money right now. It's been 2 years of this so far. Had I chosen to move out earlier, I could have done it, but it's only been about 6 months since I decided to stop trying to reconcile.
ReplyDeleteTara - I'll pass on the HB. Thanks! The nice thing about our area is that there are a solid 4 seasons. It's gotten cold overnight (34 last night), but official 'winter' is still a ways away. The leaves haven't turned yet, but they'll start now.